I had this conversation with a friend of mine, quite some time ago (two? three years?), about love. It had to do with the fact that she feared uttering the words "I love you" to her significant other, because what if she didn't? Sure they had been seeing each other for quite some time, but she was only 16 or 17, did she really love that other person? And it's not quite something you can take back either... "Well, it just so happens.... that I DONT love you after all." So who's to say when we can truly tell when we've experience what being in love with someone is like?
Now I'm a theater major in college, and part of what's expected of me as a lighting designer, is enhancing the emotion of any given scene of a show. I have to examine the play, and then each scene, and extrapolate the emotion i want to enhance. If it's fear, is the light on the figure we're focusing on brighter? or is the rest of the stage brighter. Am i going to use a cool color? or a warm color? Besides the fact that these questions plague me all the time while i'm trying to figure out what to do, knowing the actual emotions themselves inside and out helps a good deal.
Now let's briefly narrow down the range of human emotion. So say we have fear, love, anger, hate, hapiness, sadness, and i'm sure a few others but I don't feel like spending the time trying to remember what they are. Now I'd go as far as to say that love is the most complex emotion out of those several, and here's why.
One of the reasons I enjoy a bit of psychadelic action every now and then, is because I become closer with most of these emotions. I've never felt fear like the time I was tripping on mushrooms in my friend Shanes dorm room and the fire alarm went off. I could compare it to hearing an air raid siren, or an attack alarm on a submarine- as if unthinkable tragedy was looming nearby, and I had to undertake desperate measures in order to save myself. Through these experiences, I'd say I've associated myself more closely with fear, anger, hapiness and sadness. Maybe hate, but i'm not too sure about that one. Hapiness is clearly the best of the bunch- reasonably so. Sadness I also find particularly interesting, unlike many others I know. I could be looking up at a rainy sky, and undergo and immense feeling of sadness, yet I find pleasure in knowing what that immense feeling of sadness feels like.
So there are a few reasons I find anger, hate, fear, hapiness, and sadness to be less complex than love. First of all, are odd ranges of love. You can love someone, but not be in love with them. You can love a group of people, but only like one of them. When it comes to the other emotions, theyre mostly straight forward, in the sense that there's a range of weak to intense. You can be irritated with someone, you can be pissed with them, you can be angry with them, or you can be flat out mad. But am I wrong in saying that that's about it? Fear too. You can either be scared, or very scared. But with love, there seems to be different types of love.
Hate is the closest in complexity to love, since it is technically the exact opposite. You hate someone, you love someone. opposites. However, i'd say that there are, again, some things that make love a bit more complex of an emotion than hate. Mainly, you can hate someone, and they don't necessarily need to hate you back. It doesn't need to be a mutual understanding. Hate can go one way. Love however, in it's richest form, must be mutual between two individuals. To be truly in love with someone, must they not be in love with you too? Such a complex feeling would soon turn into wallowing sadness if it wasn't returned.
I can easily say I've felt all the other emotions in the entirety, except love. I dealt with extreme sadness when I lost my father, I've feared taking on several risks of young adulthood, and so on and so forth. But when I have to read a work of literature where love in it's richest form is illustrated, how do I capture it? I honestly have no idea. I consider it almost a weak point in my value as a designer, and as a large downer as a person. I know I'm young, and that I have many years ahead of me in order to find out what it's like, but a lot of the time that sounds like a bunch of crap. If not a full out knowledge of what it feels like, maybe just a little? I'd really love to know.